My husband and I had been together for just over a year when we decided to get married. It wasn’t an elaborate or planned out proposal, it just manifested itself and became a fact.
I am such an adoring Pinterest lover and I scroll through to find new ideas or just to get inspired almost every day. On this particular day in June 2018, I was scrolling through the Halloween and goth sections, as I tend to do when it’s warm and sunny outside, and found the most beautiful black evening gown. It was long with a perfectly sized train, black all over, with sequins and lace and just the right amount of tulle to expose my shoulders and upper back. I instinctively knew that whenever I got married, this was my dress.
I sent a picture to my future husband and told him that when we got hitched I wanted this to be my dress.
We decided to get married that October.
We’re a very laid back couple so planning a wedding in less than five months was somewhat daunting but we knew that it would come together exactly as it was supposed to. I love to organize my life in spreadsheets so I had my guest list sheet and a “to buy” list sheet ready pretty much within the first day.
We didn’t have a lot of money nor did we want to spend a lot of money so we did quite a bit of crowd sourcing to see which of our friends could contribute a particular service, and we were very fortunate to have the help of family for big ticket purchase items.
The dress had already been chosen, at only $150; we didn’t want to feed a hundred people so we opted for snacks and I hand selected our playlists so there was no need for a formal DJ. The only item that we truly splurged on was our amazing photographer and it was worth every penny. We had a friend make our wedding cake and cupcakes, other friends made all of the appetizers for only the cost of food, others made centerpieces and took our engagement pictures for free. Every single thing at our wedding had the imprint of someone that we love and it ended up saving us a TON of money!
Our wedding grand total: $3,367
A few days before the wedding, it was uncovered that our special day was not just going to have rain; it was going to torrentially downpour. Everything was planned outside, in a field, under one tent. Luckily, that field belonged to my dad as we were using his backyard and we caught it in enough time to make changes with our rental company and get rid of the tents that would more than likely have immediately blown away. The decision was made to move the party inside of his home and use the garage as the main event area.
I certainly had a few sleepless nights trying to plan out in my head where people could go, where we needed tables, where the aisle would be, if the garage doors should be open or closed; all while living about five hours away due to a new job opportunity that came up about two months before the wedding.
All of this to say, our wedding was beautiful.
The rain didn’t stop anyone from having a great time, we got just the right amount of tables and chairs, the home itself became the perfect back drop for our theme and the wedding became that much more personal with the smaller, intimate spaces.
My dad built a beautiful background for the ceremony and we projected Evil Dead 2 on one of the garage doors; we had a Bloody Mary signature cocktail with an open bar, the music selections perfectly complemented both of our personalities, and our guests were encouraged to wear their favorite Halloween costumes or the signature wedding color, black.
Your wedding is all about you and your partner. Read that again.
If you want to spend a lot of money on your special day, go for it! If you’re like me and you want the most laid back event that speaks to who you are as a couple without sacrificing your wallets, crowd source.
We had the most hauntingly beautiful, rainy Halloween wedding and we owe it all to our amazing group of family and friends.